When Grief Has You Running For Escape

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It is easy to hide from the world... but is it healthy long term?



When grief comes knocking at your front door, all you want to do is slink back into the safety of your home and lock the outside world away.

When we are dealing with the death of a loved one, the external world continues to revolve through their regular routines, and pleasures while the grieving heart is leaking all over the floor of our homes.

We learn that society is not too comfortable with the reality of loss, and many tend to shy away from the person who is falling apart inside the isolation of their retreat.  The emotions are intense and many find that their friends and family can't handle the turmoil of dealing with someone so out of control of their own reactions.

The early days of dealing with the death of someone we love, leave us in a state of confusion, fogginess, and loathing because no one understands the devastation we are feeling.  These are truly non-judgmental aspects of walking the journey of grief, but too few remember the emptiness that death endows upon the living.  We try to escape our pain by removing ourselves from the world around us, and any chance of happiness or joy is hidden by the overgrowth of sadness.

Being cast into a hurdling set of tirades is something that we can't get out of completely, but when the shock and disbelief begins to subside, it is our queue to reach for stability and begin to cling to the lifelines that have been thrown to us.  It may seem that no one cares, and we've pushed away the chances at repairing broken relationships, but many humans are very forgiving.  At the time, they may not have known how to help ease your suffering, but there are those who will help you dust yourself off and reach their hand towards yours.

Acceptance of what is, and the realization that your pain is not going to change the outcome of what has happened to the one you so dearly lost, will allow you to gain your footing to your own story.  Healing takes place, when you are able to talk about what has happened in your life, whether it seems fair or not... and you break footsteps towards redefining what this means for your future.

Owning your own story of loss may become a great comfort for those around you, or strangers far away from you.  Sharing your reactions, emotions, ways of coping... could become someone else's lifeline that they needed from your experience of loss.  Trying to remain in isolation for long periods of time, will not assist you within this journey of loss, but reflecting and examining your own story may help you break through to another level of growth.

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