How Gratefulness Has Helped Me In My Grief Journey

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I could look at the world and see all that is wrong, while I suffer in grief...




... Or, I could turn my attention to all that is good, and refocus my mind for a moment in time.


When individuals are lost in grief, it is difficult to be able to focus on what is still positive in the world.  Grief takes you down a lonely path, that can be dark and fearful.  It can be immersed in negative thoughts that cause isolation.

... But grief can also become a time of great discovery.  When you are cast into the lowest depths of emotion due to the loss you are experiencing, the only way left, is to look up.  You may have spent months looking around at all the suffering, and you've plunged your entire life into a void.  Some people decide to remain in this stance indefinitely, while others try to crawl to the surface where the sun is still radiating, and life is good.

It takes some effort to emerge from the cauldron of anguish, but once you begin on the ascent, you will be able to appreciate the blessings that surround you every day.  In the beginning, it may be very subtle, as you notice a new flower blooming and you ponder its beauty.  As time wears on, you may make a conscious decision to no longer live in the misery of grief, and try to refocus your mind on the beautiful aspects of the world.

Living in this new light does not take away the pain of your loss completely, but it can help you to instill a brighter hope for the future.  This is how you begin to redraw the lines of your life, after facing devastation that grief brings to your doorstep.

Focus on anything that you can, that makes you feel just a little bit better, and then try to do it more often, as the weeks go on.  By drawing your attention to the things you can control, you are able to lift yourself further and further out of the rabbit hole of grief.  By taking a refreshing breath of clean air that energizes you to move through the remaining life you are granted, you will become grateful that you are still here, amid the pain of your loss.

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Kim Halerwich-Clark is a Certified NLP Practitioner and Life Coach, 
as well as, the author of multiple personal development books. 

Kim is an Instructor on Udemy where she teaches a variety of topics to students 
all around the globe, including the "Dealing With Loss" online course.  

She is the Founder of The Solution Wizard Company that is dedicated to assisting 
individuals in overcoming challenges that face society every day.


www.thesolutionwizard.shop

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