Butterfly Kisses From Beyond

Grieving the loss of a loved one can result in overwhelming emotions. The Butterfly Kisses From Beyond Blog now offers a video/audio format, for those who prefer to "watch and listen" rather than read an article. If you prefer to review the written text, please visit here  and don't forget to Subscribe with your email to receive more grief articles directly to your inbox. Find more grief resources at www.butterflykissesfrombeyond.com or www.thesolutionwizard.com Kim Halerwich-Clark is a Certified NLP Practitioner and Life Coach, as well as, the author of seven personal development books. Kim is an Instructor on Udemy where she teaches a variety of topics to students all around the globe, including the course: Dealing With The Loss Of A Loved One .  She is the author of " Butterfly Kisses From Beyond - Signs From My Son In Heaven ." She is the Founder of The Solution Wizard Company that is dedicated to assisting individuals in overcomi

Losing Loved Ones Is Difficult To Swallow Emotions run high when the ones we love leave this planet. As humans, we are not immune to the fact that many of our loved ones will pass away during our lifetime.  No matter how prepared we think we might be, we will not be ready for their departure from this world. Losing the people we care about is such a devastating time, that no words can express the pain that your heart feels.  The emptiness abounds, and cloudy thoughts are at the forefront of your mind. Even if your loved one was battling a long illness that was considered terminal, we can't fathom the life we must live after they are no longer here in the physical sense.  Even if you believe that the spirit lives on, it is very hard to cope with life when their presence has disappeared.  Many people around the world are blessed with signs from beyond, or experiences that they can't explain, but the majority of time, we are left with a certain void that rem

When your emotions are overflowing, it can be difficult to focus. Finding ways to redirect your mind towards more peaceful thoughts  can be challenging but it will assist you in conquering the latest wave of grief. No matter how hard we try to avoid grief, there is no way to side-step around the overwhelming feelings of loss.  The absence of your loved one's physical presence is no doubt front and center in your mind.   It takes trial and error to succeed and bring yourself into a more peaceful state, but perseverance is of utmost importance when trying to survive the pain of loss. Not all methods of working through grief will achieve the same results for all people, as our experiences are unique.  We will differ in our tolerance level of overbearing emotions and some individuals are able to handle more intense feelings than others.  It is advised that you try a multitude of techniques until you find the procedures that give you some contentment. Here is a

The death of a loved one is heart-wrenching. It doesn't matter if it is your parent, spouse, child, sibling, relative, close friend, or even a pet; it ultimately affects you. All feelings of grief are worthy. If you have a deep bond with another soul, you will be bound with the suffering and emptiness of loss when they are no longer with us. Society has not prepared us for the devastation that occurs when someone we love dies.  We are often left on our own accord, to find ways of coping the emotional torment that is thrust upon our lives. We look to families, professionals, and friends to assist us in our journey of pain and many times, we are faced with closed doors and hearts, as we feel so misunderstood. I believe many people are not versed in how to handle another's grief, so some would rather ignore the fact that it exists entirely.  It leaves the vast majority of the population to suffer silently.  Sometimes we are blessed with those gifted individuals who know t

Emptiness is a part of grief that never truly heals. There will always be a void that forever stays open like a gaping wound. Losing a loved one is something that one never gets "over".  There are reminders everywhere that a physical presence is missing... a longing for their voice, laughter, or simply their company. There are many aspects of grief that can never be repaired, even when one completely believes in the afterlife and realizes that spirit lives on after death.  When left in the world of matter, we have to live with the fact that someone is missing from our lives.  It is a pain that will always leave a gnawing sentiment, even when we are surrounded by joy and happiness for present events that are happening in our realities. I've learned to survive the emotional turmoil, and the majority of time, I am confident and ambitious towards a bright future; however, even years later, the circumstances of my son's absence hits me like a woodpile toppl

Once you travel the road of grief, this burning question  will be embedded into your conscious mind. "Does The Afterlife Really Exist?" Finding evidence that life goes on after death can be daunting. There are many things in life that seem to be shroud in mystery, and the new normal that one experiences with the loss of a loved one, questions what we truly believe about the afterlife. Perhaps when you were younger, you didn't question death all that much.  You may have had grandparents that died, and you were sad to have lost their physical presence, but perhaps you didn't quite ponder what really happened to them? I faced death a few times in my early adult years, as I lost a close classmate in high school, and my grandparents when I was in my twenties, but I never really questioned if spirit world existed at any deep level.  My life proceeded to go on, and my mind was busy with the traditional milestones of career, marriage, and children.  I didn&

Our society has never been prepared to deal with grief, and when we encounter  those who are suffering from loss, our words may become hollow phrases. Letting someone know you are thinking about them is imperative. When dealing with people that are in the midst of grief, sometimes our words can have a negative connotation, even if that wasn't our intent.  People try to show their empathy and compassion to those who are suffering the loss of someone dear, but when people are in pain, they may interpret your well-intended words quite differently. I realized how pertinent our words become when I lost my son, and had the task of responding to those caring individuals that took the time to offer their heartfelt condolences.  In all honesty, I believe everyone had the best of intentions when they were reaching out and offering their sympathies, even if their words seemed rigid in some unsatisfying way. When you're in the shock of grief, our emotions are raw and ove

Families are being thrust into grief at alarming rates. The Coronavirus has no shame. The current Covid-19 pandemic that is happening all across the globe is destroying families within a matter of weeks.  We are witnessing families being torn apart, not only by social distancing, and self-isolation, but by the death of those who are loved dearly. Society is not ready for the heartache which will follow this health crisis.  Even when the curve begins to flatten, many families will be left with a void so large, they will struggle with the overwhelming pain for years to come.  Families have been split open at the core, by the loss of spouses, parents, and even children.  Friends and family members all around the world have tested positive, and can't guarantee that they will make it through, long enough to survive.  Our society is fragile, and the pain is real. Grief is a journey that no one wants to walk, and yet, we unwillingly get thrust into its throngs even though

You will have a specific "sign" that speaks to you directly. Not everyone will feel connected to cardinals, butterflies, or some of the more common signs from deceased loved ones, but there will be something specific to you, that gives you a sense of peace. For the last decade, I have noticed many cardinals in my life... even before I was thrust into the journey of grief.  When I recall memories of growing up, I don't remember cardinals being a prominent bird in our community.  I always saw robins, or sparrows, or red-winged blackbirds when I was growing up, and the cardinal always eluded my bird-noticing sessions. Approximately, eight years ago, the cardinal came into my life and to this day, has stayed a part of my message system from nature.  I'm not sure why I feel so connected to this bird, as it happened before my son passed away, and prior to reading about signs from deceased loved ones. I remember years ago, before my world flipped ups

I scanned the faces of many but to my disappointment, I could not find you. "A Bereaved Mother's Dream" In the early months after you suddenly left this world, I remember searching for you... seeking you out among the many faces that crossed my path.  I would look for your sweeping hair, when a young man walked towards me, or a glimpse of your radiant blue eyes. I found myself scanning the bodies, to see if there was a hidden teenager, nestled in the droves of kids that hung out by the school yard.  I even cascaded looks towards the little boys, to see if in some miraculous way, you had reincarnated and became someone else's joy to behold. One day, as I sat in a fast food restaurant, I spotted a boy that I was sure resembled you. I could not take my eyes off of him, as he waited in line to order.  I sat in my seat mezmerized at this young lad, that had the same blonde hair and stature of you.  From the back, I could imagine that it really was you

Bring yourself into the light of source to release all dire feelings.   We are all a part of the universe and eternally surrounded with unconditional love.  Share in the peace of connection. May we all be healed and guided during troubling times. The Solution Wizard Book Series More resources

Do you see hearts and wonder if they are a  sign from a loved one, angel, or the spirit realm? The heart is a universal symbol of love and it portrays a vast array of positive feelings when one encounters this shape in their every day life.  It can bring a feeling of peace, contentment, and hopefulness that no other "sign" from beyond can accomplish. The world around us is constantly sending us signals and messages, that once you begin to perceive, you can't help but notice when they appear. The shape of a heart can be seen literally anywhere, and in it can come in any form. Personally, I have found hearts to appear in stones, tree branches, plants, potatoes, water droplets, and even concrete, to name a few.  When their presence is noticed, it immediately brings a vast amount of unconditional love that seems to emanate from the universe itself.  Your mind is instantly brought into a place of peace, and the negative thought that may have been previously pres

Whatever you need to do that helps you to survive the pain  of loss is appropriate no matter what others think of you. The first month of grief is absolute hell.  Your mind is confused... you are left in a fog... and the bellowing emotions are overrun at the seams.  You want to escape the pain, and ease the exhausting episodes of uncontrollable crying sessions.  If you need to slink back into something that comforted you as a child and it is working, then do not worry about how the external world perceives your behavior. I am a survivor of child loss, and when I lost my son in 2015, I was clinging to every imaginable thread that helped me through the difficulty of those first few months.   A few weeks after suffering through my son's funeral, my partner and I had been isolated within our home, and we decided to venture to Walmart.  We hadn't been shopping for groceries in weeks, and this was a trip I wasn't looking forward to, as it felt like I had a hu

I recall every detail of my last days interacting with my son before he was suddenly taken from us. I can hear the words, see the expressions, feel the emotions, and picture the scenery of each moment. During the summer before my son passed, he had been working for my now son-in-law, in the concrete industry. They were pulling late hours and hectic schedules, so I was trying to visit my son as often as possible during the months prior to his accident. I remember waiting for him on his 18th birthday at my daughter's house, as the crew was working late again. Upon his arrival, we rushed over to my parent's house and finally had dinner around 8 p.m. He had been working so much, that I didn't want him to be too tired, as he had another busy job the next day, so I remember dropping him off at his Dad's house. It was already dark and I can picture him sitting in the passenger seat of my Mustang.  To this day, I wish our goodbye wasn't so rushed, as he basically gr