Is Death Really The End? Can You Heal From Grief?

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Calming the heart is a never-ending process.




Grief will always be a part of us... there is no journey that ever truly finds a finish line.

The feeling of loss and emptiness from losing a loved one will remain, no matter how many years pass.

You may be surrounded by joy, love, and happiness, and still there is a void that looms over your existence, as a part of you has disappeared from this realm.  You can be grateful in one breath, and breathless from sorrow in the next instance.  It is a feeling that we learn to live with... an adjustment to our way of life that somehow correlates within our adaptation to the way we now live our lives.

Peace and serenity can exist alongside of sadness.  It takes some self-analysis, and examination of our inner core to be able to reside in a world of conflicting aspects, but it is possible.  You will be able to experience great ambitions and expectations, even though a part of your life is completely erased from the path it had been following.  It is not easy to get to this place of acceptance, but it is almost necessary if your goal is healing.  

When discussing the word "healing", this does not mean that sadness is eradicated, as that cannot be undone.  When you mend loss, it simply means that you are able to function at the basic level, and strive for happier days ahead.  It can never mean that you forget the pain you've suffered, as that will always come and go, so swiftly that you learn to ride out the waves.  Some are strong and overwhelming, and at other times, they are subtle and just want to be noticed.

As the months and years pass, your loved one will continue to be a wonderful part of your life that can never be taken away from you.  Their existence in your life was a beautiful addition to your experiences, and that part will always remain no matter how tragic the ending of their life became.  You have solace in your heart, as their presence in your life, was more valuable than anything you could ever acquire with all the wealth of society.  The experience itself, gave you lessons and understandings that you were able to obtain from having that person in your life.  It was never meant to feel like you lost your loved one in vain, as you both benefited from the interactions that you shared.  

A bond like no other, has left you longing for more.  

Perhaps, we learn to cherish our experiences, our remaining loved ones, our moments of existence here, and reflect on what we could have done better?  

Perhaps, we continue to go on?

Life itself exists for a reason... it makes absolutely no sense to me that we would die, and the final curtain would be drawn forever.  I cannot accept that rationale, even though some do.

My beliefs summarize that we are only here to learn and experience this lifetime... and the story is far from over, after our human body dies.

That, I can accept.

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