Butterfly Kisses From Beyond

Your body continues to require nourishment during the suffering of loss. Blocked emotions can interrupt the signals from your body to stay healthy during grief. eBooks on Food When you've lost someone dear to you, it is easy to get into the habit of not being aware of what foods you are consuming.  Some people will lose their appetite, and not eat regularly, which causes not only weight loss, but lack of much needed energy that propels you through the grieving process. On the flip side, some individuals who are struggling with grief, may turn to food as a comfort, and their intake of sugars and carbs becomes excessive.  This not only leads to an increase in body fat, and weight gain, but also can lead to more emotional upheavals when your body is not getting the nutrients it needs. It is pertinent that you consume a variety of healthy foods, even when you are feeling low, so that your body doesn't spike from one extreme to another.  It is helpfu...

Using Mindfulness to Reduce Feelings of Stress   If you are experiencing low energy, headaches, racing thoughts, elevated emotions, or feelings of despair, you may find releasing the stress from your body will bring you back into balance. This simple technique will help you move from the first person experience to one of an observer to your thoughts, feelings, and actions.   - The first step is to close your eyes.  - Take a long, deep breath and focus all of your attention to the air coming into your lungs, lingering for a second or two, and slowly begin to release your breath, as your shoulders drop and the tension releases. Do this at least 3 times in a row or for as long as you wish.  - Now, picture a river in front of you... you can see the ripples in the water, as the current flows in one direction.  - Every item in your mind becomes an object floating down this stream... you can picture each thought, feeling, memory,...

Calming the heart is a never-ending process. Grief will always be a part of us... there is no journey that ever truly finds a finish line. The feeling of loss and emptiness from losing a loved one will remain, no matter how many years pass. You may be surrounded by joy, love, and happiness, and still there is a void that looms over your existence, as a part of you has disappeared from this realm.  You can be grateful in one breath, and breathless from sorrow in the next instance.  It is a feeling that we learn to live with... an adjustment to our way of life that somehow correlates within our adaptation to the way we now live our lives. Peace and serenity can exist alongside of sadness.  It takes some self-analysis, and examination of our inner core to be able to reside in a world of conflicting aspects, but it is possible.  You will be able to experience great ambitions and expectations, even though a part of your life is completely erased fr...

Messages from beyond can soar a heart to grand levels. The veil is thinner than we think! Yesterday was Mother's Day and for a parent who has lost a child, it can be an emotional time with plenty of heartache to go around. For days leading up to Mother's Day, the pain in my heart did not cease to make me notice it.  I called out to my son multiple times, telling him I would love a sign and reassurance from him that he wasn't far from my current world. The hours ticked on yesterday, as I spent some time with my Mom and Daughter, as I couldn't bare to be away from them.  I searched desperately for some type of recognition that my son had somehow gotten a Mother's Day message to me in some way.  I stopped by the cemetery to visit his grave, and a little chipmunk ran along a tree trunk laying in the bush, but otherwise, all was silent. On my drive home last night, a red cardinal flew across the road, directly in front of my car (which in fact ...

Women everywhere are struggling to hold it together this upcoming weekend. Mothers who have lost children deserve a little extra care this Mother's Day. It is an ongoing emotional battle that strikes without notice when it comes to bereavement.  The simplest of holidays can jar an internal tsunami of pain that many people don't realize who have never lost a child. Growing up, celebrating Mother's Day was always such an honour, as it allowed us to shower our own Mothers in praise, and love for all that she does for us.  I am truly blessed to still have my Mom here on this planet, as many around me don't have the luxury of that bond.  My heart hurts for them, as they struggle with their own loss during a day that says so much of what their heart is bearing. This article only focuses on the Moms who have lost children, as I know this pain firsthand.   I still try to hold a special place for the celebration of Mother's Day, as I have m...

Reckless words from the past can haunt us in the future. Have you spoken words that you regret, or not said the things you should have? Missed opportunity to apologize becomes a thorn in the side of many who have lost loved ones without rectifying past hurts. We can carry many burdens when it comes to wishing that things had been different before someone has passed away.  Perhaps you suffer with the knowledge that things were left unhealed between you and someone you truly cared about, and they left this world before you had the chance to say you were sorry. You may not have realized your participation in the turmoil, while they were here on Earth, but since their passing, you had time to reflect on a different level.  You perhaps came to know that things could have been handled differently, so there wasn't so much pain inflicted during an argument, disagreement, or fight. We are all human, and I believe one of the reasons we are playing in this game of lif...

Praying for signs and perhaps getting them immediately?! Have you ever yearned for a lost loved one so intently, and then something  strange happened and you wondered if it was really them? I know sometimes I am quite insistent that I am ready and willing to receive a "sign from beyond" and I mentally call out to my son to let me know he is around.  Sometimes I search afterwards, and have my awareness antennae on high alert, and nothing happens... but then, some days, I am blessed. The other night, I was with my partner on a midnight nature tour, and we parked the four-wheeler in the middle of nowhere, so we could enjoy the peaceful night and look at the stars.  I sat back, taking in my surroundings, as the moon was just bright enough that I could make out silhouettes of the trees and bushes that huddled around our seclusion. I mentally called out to Logan, and stated this would be a great time for him to come in full-form apparition, and walk out of ...